My birthday is coming up in a few weeks and I’m feeling quite wisdomatic. So here are some life lessons that I’ve learned along the way. Not all may agree with me and that’s ok because they are MY life lessons.
1. Always save your work!!! I just spent the last 4 hours composing this post and then my computer decided to be an A-hole. All my precious work gone in a matter of seconds because I didn’t save it. I just want to curl into a ball and cry. Literally just weep. It might not seem like a big deal to some, “Just write again,” they say. However, the second time will never sound as good as the first. All you writers know what I’m talking about. So sad right now. Anguish might be the right word. I have to recover what I wrote from memory. Cry. Computers are evil and have a mind of their own. Save your work people. Ok, lets try this again.
2. When you’ve hit rock bottom, take a shower, go out and grab a cup of coffee. It wont make your problems go away but it will make you feel better. (I just grabbed a cup of coffee. Did my writing come back? No. But I do feel a tad bit better).
3.The most delightful sound to your ears are your baby’s first laughter. This cannot be expressed in words but must be experienced. You also wont know fully understand the meaning of unconditional love until you have your own child.
4.Be good to your parents. The older you get the more you realize just how human they are. Understand, forgive, and love them. As a parent, my children will not always agree with my methods of parenting but I sure hope they realize that at the end of the day, I just want whats best for them. Cherish your parents before they are gone from this world. You’ll miss them.
5. Take care of your health. Your health IS your life. Without it, nothing else matters. GVV! Go to the gym. Take your vitamins. Eat your vegetables!
6. There will always be someone better than you. Accept this and you wont be so hard on yourself. I used to think that I was not creative enough, pretty enough, talented enough, smart enough. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique and one of a kind. There is noone like you, so stop trying to be a copycat and be fabulous. On the flip side, there will always be someone worse than you. Take comfort in this and be confident in yourself.
7. Don’t stop learning. Investing your time and money in education and personal development is the best thing you can do for yourself… and you’ll be filthy rich! (I meant mentally. But it can also lead to financial wealth). I have a lot of admiration for med and law school students. Years after graduating with a degree and landing a comfortable job, I decided to change it up and try something new. Med school it was! I remember having to retake all my high school science courses (because its been too long) to complete university prereqs to get into med school. Wow. What was I thinking. First year sciences are brutal! On top of our lectures, we had mandatory labs and tutorials. Omg. Here I am thinking – im so much older than these 18 year old kids, I can ace this! – Ya right. I barely made it out alive. Moral of the story. Med school might not have been the path for me but at least I tried and learned something new along the way. Stimulate your brain!
8. Put God first above all else. Its easy to worship material possession, family, career and status as they consume our daily lives. However, they are all temporary. If any of these are taken away from me I know I’ll still be ok. It wont be easy but it will be a lot more bearable with God on my side.
9. Not everyone will like you… and that’s OK. Its human nature to want to be liked, valued, and respected. The need for acceptance is evident in a society fueled by social media’s like’s and followers. Its not the end of the world if you are not liked. Nothing really happens. (Imagine that!)
Instead focus your energy on loving and developing yourself emotionally, physically and spiritually. “I don’t know the secret to success but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Crosby.
10. Dont be afraid to grow old. I used to dread turning 30 but age is just a number. You are only as old as you feel.
I know so much more now than i ever did when i was in my teens and in my 20’s. Imagine how much more knowledge and experience I will gain when I turn 40, 50, 60, etc.. I think that is pretty cool. Another year older, another year wiser resonates truth.
11. Find the RIGHT partner. It is better to journey life together than alone don’t you think?
12. True friends are a rare gem. Many will come and go in your life. The ones that choose to remain in your life are the ones that you will want to hold on to. Friendship takes effort and the older you get, the more you will realize the difference between a gem and a pebble. Treat your gems as you would like to be treated and throw away your pebbles.
13. Family Matters. Don’t take them for granted. You will regret it. Make an effort to connect with family members whether they are near or far. Distance does not make the heart grow fonder. It just makes you more isolated. Check up on your family if you are not near them. A simple phone call will make their day.
14. You are worth more than your resume. It is impossible to fit all of you on a piece of paper. Your credentials and degrees are great but they don’t define who you are. I remember interviewing candidates for a job and what struck out to me was not their accomplishments but their confidence and personality. Your resume will only get you so far. (On a side note, for those that don’t need encouragement but know that they are the Shiiiish. Its great to be confident but be humble. Arrogance is not a desired trait).
15. Don’t be afraid of Change. Change is good. I’ve gone through some drastic changes in my life. Moving from different countries, schools, jobs, relationships. Without all these changes I would not be where I am today and it doesn’t stop here. I believe everything happens for a reason. Although change is scary and sometimes unwanted, it is necessary for your sanity. Welcome change with open arms.
16. Its not too late to start a savings account. Growing up in a third world country, I was not educated on money. I remember arriving in Canada and learning the abc’s on the big dough. what do you mean I have to file taxes? what are taxes? investment? what is that? how do you create a bank account? what is a credit card? you mean I can buy stuff even though I don’t have money and pay later?
The concept was mindblasting! (not mindblowing, but mindBLASTING!) It wasn’t until my late 20’s that I started a savings account. Better late than never!
18. Give, Contribute, Donate. Something that I don’t do enough. I am not rich but giving is so much more than just monetary value. It takes a selfless person to give their time, money and knowledge to others. I believe that the more you give, the more you shall receive (although that should not be an expectation).
19. Time is more valuable than money. You cannot buy time. It stops for no one and there is no refund. Respect the time people put aside for you and meet them on time. I am oh so guilty of this. I am always late. I don’t do this on purpose but I am always unintentionally late. I was late for my engagement party and I was even late for my own wedding. This is something I am working to improve and want to thank all my friends and family for putting up with me for so long.
20. Music makes things so much better. I am a Kpop fan and I am not ashamed.
21. Don’t take life so seriously. Life is too short. Enjoy it. (What I do on a Saturday night – Dress up as a Panda. I am weird but its cool).
Thanks for reading!