Category: ThatKimchiLife

Do You Believe In Miracles?

Before I had children, I was never diligent in attending Church nor showing any interest in anything religious. I was always a believer in Christ. I never faltered in my belief but I was never-in-your-face-lets-tell-the-whole-world-about-it either. Funny how much having kids changes you. The one thing that I always wanted to do when i had kids was to teach them about God. Despite my faults, flaws and lack of desire to attend church, I made it a priority to take them to Sunday school every week. That is where they can learn that if mommy and daddy are not around, God is there to protect them. If they are scared, they can pray to God. If they feel helpless and alone, they can rely on God. If nothing else, I wanted them to believe in the real God and that they have nothing to fear. The world is a scary place and as my children continue to grow, I can only shelter them for so long…

I don’t normally share intimate details of my life but what happened today was so mind-blowing, i needed to blog about it.

Today was like any other morning except that i was sick as a dog but still had to tend to my two energetic little runts. I had to sum up every molecule of energy in me to get up and proceed with the day. As I glance around the house, there are toys sprawled out in the living room, dirty dishes left in the sink and last nights dinner left crusted on the kitchen floor. Despite the lack of energy, I took the kids out of the house and headed straight to the playground stopping to get a coffee to go. After letting them play for about an hour or so, it was time to go back home for lunch. Suddenly Aly (my first born) rushes over and exclaims, “Mommy, where is my small blanket?!” I check the stroller to see if she left it there and I don’t see anything. I ask her if she brought it with her and she nods her head fiercely. I tell her its not in the stroller and at that moment she goes into panic mode. Perhaps I shouldn’t have criticized her at that time by telling her its her fault for bringing something so valuable out to the public and that is just a good lesson that she learned. After all she is only 3 and her whole world just collapsed because she lost her beloved small blanky. But I was just too tired, too sick and too cranky as I was also trying to strap her screaming one year old sister back in the stroller to journey back home.  “Thats too bad Aly, lets go home” I told her. My three year old broke down in tears. Sobbing. I immediately felt terrible. After all, she’s had that blanky since she was born and although it might not be a good thing for kids to be attached to an object, it wasn’t the time to justify or explain such things to her. I picked her up and and said, “Aly, do you want to pray to God to help you find your blanky?” She nodded with tears still dripping down her face. I asked her to repeat the following,

“Dear God,

Please help me find my small blanky. I love it so much. I am sad I lost it. Please help me. In Jesus name I pray.

Amen”.

I could see her desperately muttering out the prayer. I felt a twinge of regret praying about it because after all, how on earth am I going to find it?? (Yes, ME. I didn’t actually think God would find this blanket that could have fallen anywhere in the street) In addition, the little faith that I built for her wrapped pretty in a box might be shattered once she realizes God can’t find her blanket.

Once we got home, I put the kids in the living room and proceeded to cook lunch.

“Mommy!” Aly shouts. “Wheres God?”

That threw me off as I had forgotten about our little prayer.

“Oh, are you still looking for your blanky?”

“Yes, Mommy. Blanky not here. God is not here.”

A wave of sadness overcame me as I tried to explain to Aly that maybe she has to say goodbye to her blanky.

“You said God will find it for me” she said.

Err i did… didn’t I. Crap. What do I do.

At this moment, I thought to myself, I have no faith. At all. And I am trying to teach my daughter to have faith when even I don’t believe it.

Now this sounds really crazy, but a voice maybe my conscience or my train of thought says, “Have a little bit of faith. Don’t be skeptical and call the coffee shop”. It was so ridiculous but I called the coffee shop thinking of course they won’t have it but whatever I’ll just call anyway.

“Hello, umm so sorry to ask you a random question, but do you happen to have an old looking kids blanket……”

The lady cut me off and said, “with stars on it and its white?”

OH MY GOOSEBERRYMOTHAF***ing GUMDROPS.

“WHAT?!” I exclaimed. “Yes, yes, yes that one!!!”

I can’t believe it. Honestly, you can’t make this sh*t up. I found Alys blanky… no, God really did find my daughters blanket. It could have been anywhere lost forever but we found it. I arranged to come and pick it up and thanked them for holding on to it.

I quietly went to Aly and said, “Aly if you pray again one more time and ask God, maybe he will find the blanky for you!”

Anyway, and the rest is history…

Life can get so overwhelming sometimes, but when little things like this happen, it makes you want to cast all your sorrows, stresses and burdens to God and let him take care of it. Its not, “Have Faith Little One,” This time its, “Mommy, Have Faith”

Thanks for reading,

Esther

Family Day: Summer 2017

Slowly turning into a fob…

You know its been a long time since you last blogged when you don’t remember how to log into your own blogging platform. –.–

Somewhere along the way, i kind of stopped blogging as it was too much effort to try and produce a clean, well written post that was somewhat interesting, humorous and informative. I forgot the reason i started this blog was to just write whatever thoughts popped in my head.. an avenue to vent and share the ups and downs of my life. Writing for me, not for you.

A lot has changed in my life since i started this blog… wow.. 3 years coming up! Happy 3 year thatkimchilife! Time sure does fly… somewhere along the way, i popped two kids, switched careers, started an online business but had to put it on hold to pursue a bigger dream which i can happily say that i have achieved…something I had wanted to do when I was 18 but instead had to go get a degree (which i don’t regret). Funny how life works out. I don’t believe in luck as I believe things and opportunities are placed in your life within God’s timing. I am not lucky. I am blessed and humbled and excited to see where this new opportunity will take us.

As both kids get older, i find that it is getting easier to do more activities with them. Last week, we decided to take them for a bike ride around the seawall. At that time, I thought it was such a brilliant idea! It was a nice sunny day, we live in a beautiful city, and the kids were old enough to sit on bike chairs. Expectation: We each take one kid and enjoy the beautiful water view with the kids as the wind caresses our faces pedaling down the seawall. Reality: We forgot how physically demanding it was  especially with the weight of the kids on each bike. I don’t know about my hubby but I had toddler Z strapped in the front of my bike and all i could think of was trying not fall with her. Forget enjoying the view! My eyes were glued to the road, sweat dripping down my back with my hands grasping firmly on the steering wheel thinking are we almost back to the bike shop?? At one point, I lost control and Z and I plunged down the hill before I stepped on the brakes and saved my child but not myself. I was a bit scraped up and bruised but Z was ok and thats all that mattered. SO, the brilliant idea i had of having a nice family bike ride along the seawall was an epic fail. Perhaps it was because i haven’t ridden a bike in years or having Z strapped in the front threw off the balance but despite it being an unpleasant experience for me, the hubby and the kids seemed to have enjoyed it so i think it was actually a success! My family comes first before my own happiness. Because when they are happy, I am happy. I guess thats what being a mom is…

The Life And Times Of A Stay At Home Mom

My youngest is turning one so we celebrated in style!

They say it would get easier. They say you are lucky to be a stay at home mom. Well, it hasn’t gotten easier and although I am lucky to be able to stay at home to watch my own kids, I also feel like I am slowly losing myself – my personality, my identity and my sanity. At least, when I went back to work after my firstborn, I had “ME” time, was a lot more productive, and could actually drink a cup of coffee in peace. I made myself coffee at 6:30 am this morning and after reheating it three times, I am now drinking it at 2:00 pm while writing my thoughts down on this blog. Sometimes, I don’t get the chance to drink it until 9:00 pm, when both kids are finally in bed at the end of the day. But that also is rare, as my oldest daughter has a tendency to stay up until 11:00 pm. My youngest is way passed the newborn stage but she is still getting up every 3 hours after midnight to feed and wakes up bright and early at 6:00 am on the dot. Every. Single. Day. All the degrees, diplomas and experiences you’ve built for your resume is totally irrelevant now. At least not right now. Because once you become a mother, the only thing important in your life is the well being of your children and your family.

I haven’t blogged in a while as it takes a lot of time, thought and effort. Today, I am blogging, but i am also venting. I need an outlet to release my stress and frustration and putting aside the logistics of how topics, sentences and grammar should be arranged, the following will just be a series of random thoughts that I want to bring to life in writing.

It is rare that I get to enjoy a cup of coffee in silence ever because if one kid is napping, the other is usually up screaming for my attention or destroying the living room with toys that i just finished putting away. Having one kid is hard, but two, especially so close in age… I went into depression. It comes and goes but taking care of them with NO help has not been easy. My heart truly goes out to the mom who lost her life battling PPD. 🙁 This is temporary but how much i understand you…  On a positive note, two really is better than one. As they get older, watching them interact with each other solidifies my decision of wanting more than one child. They are so adorable together!! Having a sister is so great! And… it ends at two. 😛 (sorry hubby, unless YOU want to give birth and breastfeed another kid).

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Having children definitely changes your life. I am so thankful that God has blessed me with two bundles of joy but it has been a struggle holding onto my sanity each day. What is often displayed in social media never depicts the actual life of the individual. Deceiving, yet so addictive.

I do have dreams. I have goals, but trying to achieve them with a baby and a toddler is so hard. I don’t know how these mompreneurs do it! Its challenging as it is trying to keep the house clean (because i cant relax if the house looks like its been hit by a hurricane, hence i am always tense), cook meals to try and save some money (that never works out and we often end up eating take out), trying to stimulate my two kids by taking them to different activities throughout the day (swimming, gymnastics, art class, etc…), trying to revive my social life by making an effort to be thoughtful (which i always fail because i am so forgetful and trying to reach out to any friends that i have left is too much effort as i am exhausted and just want to sleep), making an effort to go to mom groups but the thought of trekking out with these two in the snow is so dreadful (because husband is usually working), hoping to get back to the gym (I have yet to step foot into one) and the list goes on…

*Tiptoeing to the kids room to check on them*

Both sleeping like angels! Oh, how I love them so. I honestly cant imagine my life without them. They are truly a gift from God as i know in this day and age, there are many who try to have children and are not able to.

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dinosaur, dwarf and that star wars robot thing

So, I just realized I sound bipolar. I am not bipolar but kids do that to you.. One day, you just want to throw this mom thing out the window and call it quits and the next, you cant live without your kids because they are the cutest, sweetest, little humans alive. There are also days when I am convinced that taking care of yourself comes first so i push my husband to go training, I push myself to work out, we pump ourselves, saying we are gonna build an empire and then comes two little people crawling and running to you that needs their diaper changed, need to be fed, need to be entertained, need to create lasting memories, and out goes that empire… for the time being.

finally she has her own play makeup instead of wrecking mine.. lol
She now wants everything her sister touches..

*And one is up now… until my next rant*

-ThatKimchiLife

2014 Reflection & Bucket List

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Happy 2015!

Happy New Year everyone! First, I wanted to apologize for the lack of blogging the past couple of weeks but this is because my baby is growing so fast i can barely keep up with her! She doesn’t sit still anymore and i have to chase after her as she’s discovered that she has arms and legs to move from point A to point B. Anyway, throw in the holidays and it was a busy month. I hope you understand. Second, I wanted to start the new year by blogging on a more personal level and share some of my thoughts, dreams and goals with y’all.

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Spending the holidays with my sisters and our kids.

Parting with 2014 was a bit hard as it was an exceptionally special year for me. It was the year that i experienced the ups and downs of pregnancy as my husband and I prepared to welcome our daughter into this world. On May of 2014, our lives forever changed. Nothing could have prepared me for motherhood. Because despite all the baby books you read and the prenatal classes you take there is no formula. Every mother is different, every child is different and no journey is the same.

Lets just say if you can get through the first month with your newborn, you can get through anything! I experienced it all – sleep depravation, post partum depression, breastfeeding nightmare, crazed baby obsession… I literally broke down once a week and if it wasn’t for my patient and let me reiterate PATIENT, loving and supportive husband of mine, i think i would have flung myself off a cliff. (Its amazing how much more you love and appreciate your spouse when you have kids together. Not that i wasn’t appreciative of him before. hehe. Just saying, its cool to experience life together).

Its now been almost 8 months since my baby was born and she brings an immense joy into our lives. What a character she is! I cannot imagine a life without her and I am utterly grateful to God for gifting her to us. She has definitely changed us and if we had no specific purpose in life before, we sure do now.

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Waiting for Santa…

Now onto 2015! So many ideas, so many things I want to accomplish, i am brimming with excitement! I’d like to kick off the new year with a bucket list. I’ve always had a bucket list but this is the first time that i am publicly sharing. I’ve learned that sometimes it is necessary to let others know of your dreams and goals. You just never know who will lend a helping hand and this way I can hold myself accountable as well.

Kimchi’s Bucket List

1. Visit the Grand Canyon – Every time i see pictures of the grand canyon, my desire to go there intensifies. It is just so…majestic!

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2. See the Northern Lights. – I’ve had the rare opportunity to see the milky way galaxy in Kenya and it was beautiful. Im sure northern lights would be breathtaking!

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3. Visit all 7 continents. Africa, Asia, North America, Europe, South America, Australia, Antartica

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4. Go to Disney World – I still have not been to the happiest place on earth! Now that i have a daughter, all the more reason to go!

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5. Meet the president of Korea (Park Geun-hye) – I am not a very political person and regardless of what her views are… wow that woman has gone through a lot. I have a lot of respect and admiration for her. Ms President, I want to shake your hand ma’am.

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6. Learn photography – Bought my first DSL camera when my baby was born. Now if i can just figure out how to use it…

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7. Own my own business – Working progress and taking it one step at a time…

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8. Learn to fly an airplane – Something I’ve wanted to do ever since i was a child… i just need to overcome my fear of heights.. lol.

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9. Attend a world cup match – How cool would this be?!

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10. Meet George Clooney AND his wife Amal Alamuddin – Actually i want to meet the wifey first and then Clooney. She is the definition of HOT – beautiful, smart and successful! Did you know she is also a human rights activist? I’d love to pick her brain. And Clooney because he has been my man crush ever since i watched One Fine Day.

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11. Do a pullup – Just one pullup. Thats all I ask. If i was to dangle off a cliff, i want to be able to pull myself up. (What is it with me and cliffs? haha…)

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Credit: Ben Wiseman

12. Make a difference in someone’s life. – A good reminder that sometimes its not all about me. I’d like to break away from a ME focused mentality that society instills in us. If I can make a profound impact on even one person…I’ve accomplished my goal.

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13. Visit the Blue Lagoon in Iceland – Forget the Scandinavian spa in whistler, the blue lagoon is on another level. I want to go here…

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14. Learn ballroom dancing – So beautiful and… expensive. Trying to figure a way to do this without breaking my bank account.

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15. Fulfill my fangirl desire to meet Shinhwa (a Kpop group from the 90’s) – As a kpop fan ajumma, how can i not add this one to my bucket list! I will always be a squealing fangirl at heart for my Shinhwa Oppas. (For those not familiar with this group, they would be equivalent to the Backstreet Boys in the 90’s but hotter. Much Hotter. hehe. *Swoooon).

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This is a recent photo of them from their comeback with a new album. They are in their mid to late 30’s now but they still got it! #forevershinhwafan

 

I’ll stop at 15. I have so much more that i want to do and list but this could take a while…As Yoko Ono once said, “I only have one life, so i want to make sure its a good one”. Amen, sista!

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C’est la vie!

Ess.

5 Awesome TV Shows To Watch During The Holidays

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Winter is here. Christmas is here. Spread the holiday cheer!

6 days till Christmas and 12 days till the new year. So the count down begins…

Aside from the obvious presents, gluttony, and endless dinner parties, the long holiday stretch also means sleeping in (not applicable to me because i have a 7 month old military baby that wakes me up at 8 am every morning), wearing pjs for several consecutive days and most importantly indulging in a tv marathon. To be honest, thats why i haven’t been able to do much lately as my eyes have been glued to my daughter and the tv simultaneously. Discovering a great tv show is like finding money on the streets. Such joy knowing that you have something to look forward to.

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Below is a list of Tv shows/movies that I have thoroughly enjoyed watching and wanted to share since tis the season for giving and sharing. Merry Christmas!

1. Marco Polo – If you love epic movies/shows, here is another to add to your list. Its not Game of Thrones but with a mongolian army, a concubine spy and a dashing Venetian merchant; the characters and storyline will get you hooked. I am only on episode 4 so i have yet to finish the show but so far so good! You can watch this show on Netflix.

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2. Suits – If you’ve not heard of Suits already, then I am here to tell you that this show is a must watch! How can you resist the charms of the witty, sarcastic and impeccably dressed Harvey Spector – a genius corporate attorney working for a top law firm in New York city. Harvey meets his match when he hires Mike Ross – a college dropout with a photographic memory. Together they are an unstoppable force. You can also watch Suits on Netflix. (Oh Netflix, how i love you so!)

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3. Abnormal Summit (Korean Show) – Looking for something different? Try watching this humorous talk show featuring 11 foreigners from different countries debating various topics regarding society and culture in KOREAN. Thats right, they speak fluent Korean and they speak it better than me. How embarassing. This show is so fascinating i am hooked!! You can check out the first episode which has english subtitles here – http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x21r3sn_abnormal-summit-ep-1-1-2_videogames.

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4. Gentleman (Korean Show) – Another Korean show. Sorry but once you get into these korean shows you become addicted. This show has had very little exposure and i’m surprised that i stumbled across it. In short, it’s a hidden camera experiment in search of good samaritans in an often busy and indifferent world. Different societal issues are addressed in each episode by the 2 main hosts and they in turn create “what would you do?” scenarios with hidden cameras. I really enjoyed watching this and was sad that they cut the production to a mere 20 episodes. This show made me realize that the world is not all that bad and there are good people out there. Unfortunately, there is no english subtitles provided for this show but you can get a good idea of whats going on even without it. If you are interested you can check out the first episode here – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDwTTNAUXRQ.

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5. 200 Lb Beauty (Korean Movie) – Sorry, last Korean anything that i’d like to recommend.  Its all i’ve been watching lately. Hehe.  An oldie but a goodie!  This comedic movie is a classic to watch. Synopsis: 200 lb ugly duckling transforms into a 100 lb swan (thanks to the power of plastic surgery) and snags the love of her life. Theres more to the story line but that pretty much sums it up. A senseless romantic comedy that adds no value to your life but oh so entertaining and hilarious to watch. You can watch this with english subtitles here – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2vzMzmT9fvY. Check it ouuuut.

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Thats it folks. Enjoy the holidays! Just a kind reminder that Christmas is not all about presents, stuffing your face, and awesome parties but is a celebration of Jesus’ birth, hence CHRIST-mas. He is the reason for the season!

Thanks for reading and I wish you all a MERRY MERRY Christmas!

Much Love,

Ess.

10 Things Only Bartenders Understand

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Flaming Lamborghini

Once upon a time before babies and diapers, bartending was a side job I took to make some extra cash. With 9-5 on the weekdays and bartending on the weekends, I was one busy bee!

Can I just say bartenders OWN multitasking! Try making 5 flaming lambos, 10 shots of red dragon, doing math in your head, punching in orders, getting water for the drunk, yelling for bar back to refill cups, wiping down spilt drinks, making small talk ALL at the same time with a smile plastered on your face. Yep, multitasking is our middle name.

Working in the service industry, staff relies heavily on tips to put food in their mouth. I realized that i have zero tolerance for cheap people. Yep. Nada.

Presenting 10 scenarios gathered from my experience working as a bartender in a busy club downtown. (Please note that the following reactions are based on cheap and often non-existent tippers. This does NOT apply to GENEROUS tippers. God bless your soul. You my friend can do whatever you want! Ok, maybe don’t climb up the bar….).

1. When you hear its Dubstep night.

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Water thirsty zombies that convulse into seizures upon hearing noise er i mean music would be one way to describe the crowd. In addition, 5 hours of UNZ UNZ UNZ UNZ… Just shoot me now. Please.

2. When they spill their drink and expect you to replace it for free. Im sorry but did my arm magically reach over and knock your drink to the floor? Oh. It was your clumsy arm. That will be $7.25 please.

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3. When a group orders a round of drinks and want to pay separately. “I’ll get 6 shots of tequila and can you split that 6 ways”.

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4. When they pay you in change. “Do you take pennies?”

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and if you tip me in change, i will karate chop your face.

5. When they bargain with you. “$7.25? I have $7.00… Is that ok?”

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6. When its last call and they order a big round. “Last Call? I’ll have 30 red dragons!”

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OH, ITS ON! BRING IT.

7. When they order a flaming lamborghini. (A flaming lambo is a cocktail drink that consists of 151, blue curaro, banana liquer and baileys and then you light it on fire). Try making 50 of those in a night. Im lucky I haven’t burnt my finger.

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8. When they give you a $100 bill for drinks that are worth $95 and they tell you to keep the change as if they just did you a big favor. Oh no you didn’t!

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9.When they ask what your cheapest beer is.

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Its called YOU CANT AFFORD IT.  Water. Just drink water.

10. And finally, when you cant for the life of you understand what they are saying.

My conversation with an ESL student one night.

“Hi, can I have sun of a beach?”

“Im sorry, what?”

“Son of a bi$ch!”

“Um…you mean sex on the beach?”

“Yes, i said that one!.”

“Of course you did. Coming right up.”

Sigh…

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#bartenderproblems

Ess.

Kimchi’s 21 Life Lessons

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My birthday is coming up in a few weeks and I’m feeling quite wisdomatic.  So here are some life lessons that I’ve learned along the way. Not all may agree with me and that’s ok because they are MY life lessons.

 

 

1. Always save your work!!! I just spent the last 4 hours composing this post and then my computer decided to be an A-hole. All my precious work gone in a matter of seconds because I didn’t save it. I just want to curl into a ball and cry. Literally just weep. giphyMA8VJP54 It might not seem like a big deal to some, “Just write again,” they say. However, the second time will never sound as good as the first. All you writers know what I’m talking about. So sad right now. Anguish might be the right word. I have to recover what I wrote from memory. Cry. Computers are evil and have a mind of their own. Save your work people. Ok, lets try this again.

 

2. When you’ve hit rock bottom, take a shower, go out and grab a cup of coffee. It wont make your problems go away but it will make you feel better. (I just grabbed a cup of coffee. Did my writing come back? No. But I do feel a tad bit better). untitled

3.The most delightful sound to your ears are your baby’s first laughter. This cannot be expressed in words but must be experienced. You also wont know fully understand the meaning of unconditional love until you have your own child. giphy (11)

4.Be good to your parents. The older you get the more you realize just how human they are. Understand, forgive, and love them. As a parent, my children will not always agree with my methods of parenting but I sure hope they realize that at the end of the day, I just want whats best for them. Cherish your parents before they are gone from this world. You’ll miss them. giphy (12)

5. Take care of your health. Your health IS your life. Without it, nothing else matters. GVV! Go to the gym. Take your vitamins. Eat your vegetables! ed14b65913ee0a54232d07a2951ba974

 

6. There will always be someone better than you. Accept this and you wont be so hard on yourself. I used to think that I was not creative enough, pretty enough, talented enough, smart enough.  Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique and one of a kind. There is noone like you, so stop trying to be a copycat and be fabulous. On the flip side, there will always be someone worse than you. Take comfort in this and be confident in yourself. giphyBGD5ZNKU

 

7. Don’t stop learning. Investing your time and money in education and personal development is the best thing you can do for yourself… and you’ll be filthy rich!  (I meant mentally. But it can also lead to financial wealth). I have a lot of admiration for med and law school students. Years after graduating with a degree and landing a comfortable job, I decided to change it up and try something new. Med school it was! I remember having to retake all my high school science courses (because its been too long) to complete university prereqs to get into med school. Wow. What was I thinking. First year sciences are brutal! On top of our lectures, we had mandatory labs and tutorials. Omg. Here I am thinking – im so much older than these 18 year old kids, I can ace this! – Ya right. I barely made it out alive. Moral of the story. Med school might not have been the path for me but at least I tried and learned something new along the way. Stimulate your brain! untitled (2)

8. Put God first above all else. Its easy to worship material possession, family, career and status as they consume our daily lives. However, they are all temporary. If any of these are taken away from me I know I’ll still be ok. It wont be easy but it will be a lot more bearable with God on my side. imagesCDDT35Z1

9. Not everyone will like you… and that’s OK.  Its human nature to want to be liked, valued, and respected. The need for acceptance is evident in a society fueled by social media’s like’s and followers. Its not the end of the world if you are not liked. Nothing really happens. (Imagine that!)

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Instead focus your energy on loving and developing yourself emotionally, physically and spiritually.  “I don’t know the secret to success but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Crosby. 31e842168952fe7faf4da4ff544494ac

 

10. Dont be afraid to grow old. I used to dread turning 30 but age is just a number. You are only as old as you feel. imagesZ5V8YTU9

I know so much more now than i ever did when i was in my teens and in my 20’s. Imagine how much more knowledge and experience I will gain when I turn 40, 50, 60, etc.. I think that is pretty cool. Another year older, another year wiser resonates truth.

11. Find the RIGHT partner. It is better to journey life together than alone don’t you think? giphy (14)

12. True friends are a rare gem. Many will come and go in your life. The ones that choose to remain in your life are the ones that you will want to hold on to. Friendship takes effort and the older you get, the more you will realize the difference between a gem and a pebble. Treat your gems as you would like to be treated and throw away your pebbles. imagesOJWB2O6V

13. Family Matters. Don’t take them for granted. You will regret it. Make an effort to connect with family members whether they are near or far. Distance does not make the heart grow fonder. It just makes you more isolated. Check up on your family if you are not near them. A simple phone call will make their day. images95H0G49J

14. You are worth more than your resume. It is impossible to fit all of you on a piece of paper. Your credentials and degrees are great but they don’t define who you are. I remember interviewing candidates for a job and what struck out to me was not their accomplishments but their confidence and personality. Your resume will only get you so far. (On a side note, for those that don’t need encouragement but know that they are the Shiiiish. Its great to be confident but be humble. Arrogance is not a desired trait). imagesILWL8QD6

15. Don’t be afraid of Change. Change is good. I’ve gone through some drastic changes in my life. Moving from different countries, schools, jobs, relationships. Without all these changes I would not be where I am today and it doesn’t stop here. I believe everything happens for a reason. Although change is scary and sometimes unwanted, it is necessary for your sanity. Welcome change with open arms. imagesTIF12CZ1

16. Its not too late to start a savings account. Growing up in a third world country, I was not educated on money. I remember arriving in Canada and learning the abc’s on the big dough. what do you mean I have to file taxes? what are taxes? investment? what is that? how do you create a bank account? what is a credit card? you mean I can buy stuff even though I don’t have money and pay later?

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The concept was mindblasting! (not mindblowing, but mindBLASTING!) It wasn’t until my late 20’s that I started a savings account. Better late than never!

18. Give, Contribute, Donate. Something that I don’t do enough. I am not rich but giving is so much more than just monetary value. It takes a selfless person to give their time, money and knowledge to others. I believe that the more you give, the more you shall receive (although that should not be an expectation).
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19. Time is more valuable than money. You cannot buy time. It stops for no one and there is no refund. Respect the time people put aside for you and meet them on time. I am oh so guilty of this. I am always late. I don’t do this on purpose but I am always unintentionally late. I was late for my engagement party and I was even late for my own wedding. This is something I am working to improve and want to thank all my friends and family for putting up with me for so long. giphyWLVUVBHE

20. Music makes things so much better. I am a Kpop fan and I am not ashamed. giphy (17)

21. Don’t take life so seriously. Life is too short. Enjoy it. (What I do on a Saturday night – Dress up as a Panda. I am weird but its cool). 1907863_612518862207806_6786210483907402217_n

Thanks for reading!

Ess.

You know you’ve been Friend-Zoned when…

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“You know, I almost friend-zoned you once.” I joked, while munching on some kimchi fried rice that I whipped up for dinner. Without flinching, Hubs retorted, “Apparently you didn’t do a very good job since you my baby mama”. Ok, fine. You win. Lets just eat our dinner in peace. I wasn’t sure where I was going with that remark but it was the start of an interesting dinner discussion which inspired me to write a blog about it.

“You’ve been friend-zoned.” is not something anyone, male or female wants to hear. Sometimes, you might not even know that you have been friend-zoned.

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Here are 5 signs that you’ve been friend-zoned (This is from the female point of view). Fella’s take notes.

1. She puts absolutely no effort on her appearance when meeting up with you. Sweat pants, hat, no makeup, check. “Just woke up. Lets go eat!”

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2. She insists on going dutch after a meal. In fact, she will be pissed if you pay for the bill. “Don’t even think about it. We are splitting this.”

 

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3. She asks you to run errands for her. “Do you mind stopping by walmart and grabbing me some tampons? Thaaanks! You’re the best!”

 

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4. You ask her if she wants to come to your work party and she exclaims, “Sure! Can I also bring my girlfriend?  and my brother? oh, and my dog?” Lets thrown in your cat as well.

 

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5. She’s constantly trying to set you up on a date with anyone but her. “omagawsh I know a perfect girl for you! She’s…”

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If this sounds familiar, congratulations you have been friendzoned! Unless you would like to remain there, let me suggest one tip that might help you dig yourself out of the black hole. (Consider me your ally from the estrogen team). TAKE INITIATIVE!

1. Even if she comes out wearing a potato sack, you dress like you are James Bond! Dress so fine that you’ll put her to shame. Of course, use common sense. If you are meeting up at a coffee shop, don’t show up in a tux. Dressing well doesn’t always mean formal attire. Just well put together. Don’t look like a slob.

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2. Ignore her and pay for the bill anyway. Girls like guys that take the lead. At least I do. hehe but since I’m already spoken for, I will vouch for my girlfriends. They agree with me.

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3. Not only do you grab tampons but also pick up some flowers. Unless the girl has been living in a cave, she will know what those flowers mean.

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4. Let her know that you will also be inviting your friends. The more the merrier but your friend (the wingman) better be prepared to take one for the team!

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5. Last but not least, be firm!  and confess. haha. yes I said it. Don’t beat around the bush. Wouldn’t you rather put yourself out of misery and just KNOW? Deal with it like a boss!

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Cheers,

Ess.